29 January 2015

Peace And Clarity in Solitude

IBeing an introvert, suddenly thrust into a position of confinement, away from friends and family for the first time ever, to discover my own world. I couldnt think of a better article to write. I like to reflect on what I've been though and how I can use those experiences as empowerment rather than giving them the power to demoralise. 

Which leads me to my theory that most people don't know how to be alone, or how to be  happy with their solitude. Up until last year I was one of those people.

The one thing I've learnt in the past 4 years, and I'm still learning is to never solely depend on any one because people can be with you today but gone tomorrow regardless of whether its their choice or not. Loneliness is sometimes needed to grow.

"I think I'm learning that sometimes the bravest thing is not to face the world, but to turn away from it" - Charlotte Erikson.Its like a detox. The first while is the hardest but as you begin to adjust and become one with your thoughts gaining clarity about yourself, other people become extras rather than the stars of your show, your life story.

It takes so much courage to be honest and authentic with yourself in all aspects of life. Everyone's aloneness breeds an entirely new and different discovery... And here I’m certainly not advocating that we should all turn into cavemen/women and hibernate. What I'm saying is get to know yourself entirely, acknowledge your story and grow, without outside influence. "Sometimes reflections are only visible                                                          in the presence of absence" - Michael Carini

There is an old African proverb that says "when there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you". I strongly believe that once you really know who you are, that is when you have learnt to climb the mountain so you can see the world. not so the world can see you. 

Solitude does not necessarily mean loneliness, Its the positive state we all need to reflect, to create, to imagine and best of all to enjoy the beauty of our own nature in peace and silence. Its only when we silence the echo of the world that we can hear better the little voice within. Its okay to be alone, if you cant enjoy being with yourself, why should anyone else?. After all, you're suppose to build a home where there is a foundation, not wherever you decide.

Being able to be alone is how you beat loneliness. Inability to do so is when you lose. Don't allow (the choice is yours after all) your own inner demons to lead you towards repeating history, its rarely a happy subject. They say charity begins at home, Don't ever forget, you are your first home...

Be able to wake up on a day where you have no places to be and make the decision to take yourself out. Rise and shine.  Look presentable, for you. Take yourself to a cafe, order your favourite beverage and read a book then go to your favourite place be it a restaurant by the sea side to watch the sunset or an art museum. You'll find bliss in the ability to be okay with that rather than starting your day miserable because you simply cannot find someone available to explore the things you love.  I'm a strong believer that words, emotions and vibes have a boomerang effect. What you put into the world is also what you get back.

I believe in personal growth. Its in solitude that we discover things really are not as terrible as they feel. Its in solitude that we de-clutter.

"When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you".

18 January 2015

10 Things 2014 Taught Me

Hoooney I'm Home!

Hey guys, I'm back, its been  three months and boy did they fly by!
I don't know about y'all but I'm still shocked about how fast 2014 flew by.
Around  my birthday in October I decided to take a little hiatus from posting and just write for three months because I felt as if I needed to focus on other areas of my life before I could give blogging 100%. But here I am and I've changed my blog name. I wanted something that was less about me and more about reaching out and extending some good vibes. Chronicles of A Blossom seemed fitting. A story of each new bloom. 

Since its a new year I figured I'd start of with a philosophical throwback!

Ten things 2014 taught me about life.

Um) Spend more time accomplishing than complaining.
Despite how unfortunate you may think your circumstances are, If you have the opportunity to accomplish something, you're already blessed. A set back is better than completely not having the opportunity to accomplish your dreams. Bare in mind challenges are for champions, find several ways to accomplish what you dream of rather than allowing a set back to make you fall back.

Dois) Find what you love and stick to it regardless of who says what.
Small minds find it hard to comprehend big dreams. Your visions were given to YOU for a reason. Dont wait for someone elses approval or encouragement otherwise you'll be setting yourself up for failure. If you wait for the support of others you'll never start. Put your all into your passion and watch yourself blossom. Paolo Coelho says it best in one of my favourite books The Alchemist, "
“When a person really desires something, all the universe conspires to help that person to realize his dream.”

Tres) Misfortune is the servant of your growth.
Through each problem you face, face it head on. You may cry and crumble but after, you put your crown on and inspire. You can never take someone somewhere you have never been so use your misfortune in a fortunate way to encourage and inspire people who feel hopeless. You can learn something from every situation if you want to. "

Quatro) Patience.
I've had my life planned since I was sixteen. What I wanted to be when I grew up, Where I wanted to go to college, when I would finish my masters, where I would live after graduating. what profession I wanted. when I wanted to start my PHD. None of those things have happened how I planned them to. But each set back has been turned into a comeback. I want to be a Psychologists and I'm working each day to get a step closure to each of my passions while patiently living life, rather than trying to control the bigger picture which is in God's hands and I'm ok with that.

Cinco) You will Break, But You Will Heal Again.
In order to get past pain one needs to invision a brighter future and realise that they're not dead yet so do something with that gift. "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that." - Martin Luther King, Jr. Be better for yourself and this will inspire your loved ones to do the same.God never said the weapons wouldn't form,
He just promised they wouldn't prosper.

Seis) Enjoy The Journey.
If you cant be happy now, you never will be. One cannot expect themselves to appreciate the big things if they cant have gratitude for the small. Wherever you go carry around positive energy. Most of what happens to you in life, if you don’t choose, is mediocrity, So pay the price to get to where you want to be or you'll spend your life helping someone else get to where they need to be. 

Sete) Good Vibes and Faith Go Hand In Hand.
Sometimes we have to let go of our idea of perfect and have faith that a better plan is in store. At the end of the day, everybody is in their OWN lane discovering their OWN destiny. No two stories are ever identical which is why its not a race.So wake up on a positive mental note and give out good vibes all day...The hardest thing in the world is to remain positive and upbeat during times of trial or adversity.But, feelings and vibes tend to have a boomerang effect. You cant expect greatness if you don't faith it.

Oito) A soft woman is simply a wolf caught in meditation.
Forgiveness takes courage. Never let anyone convince you that the ability to cleanse your heart, release the anger or pain another person caused you and peacefully be in their presence is weak. Bare in mind you are not forgiving to help your transgressor feel better about their transgression. you're forgiving so nothing is still held in your heart and head. "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong." ~ Mahatma Gandhi.

Nove) Explore, Love and Appreciate
Each year is merely a chapter in your life and alot can change in a year. You have to keep reading to find out more. Use your passion to find out your purpose and cheer on the people you love as they do the same. 

Dez) Find peace in Your Solitude.
Learn to be alone with your thoughts, Gain clarity. Accept who you are and where you've been. One can simply not be upset about something they have clarity over. Sometimes being selfish with your emotions is the most empowering thing to do. Declutter of all the negativity and situations that don't bring you joy. Thats just the bottom line. If it doesnt nourish your soul get rid of it.

Theres definitely alot more but I think those were major ones for me.
You're all probably wondering why I'm counting in Portuguese lol, Portuguese is one of the things I hope to learn this year. Whats on your 2015 to do list?  

Lily Aaliyah X