10 April 2014

Love, Trust And Everything In-Between.

Sometimes a man’s purpose in a woman’s life is to make her a better woman… For another man.
But, somewhere along the line a lot of women become bitter women for another man. That Is where the whole philosophy Behind “Adopting a mans characteristics ” begins. Honey you cannot think like a man because you are not one. Trying to do so is just setting a trap for yourself, in a whole sea of pain.



Most men will call a woman “frigid” because she’s conservative with sex and in the same breath call her "loose" if she is liberal, either way you’re going to call her something. What’s up with that? I mean, no justification but you’re twice as liberal as her, out there dipping your nugget in so many sauces. You’re in no position to judge her for the things you and your brethren led her to. 
"Every sinner has a future and every saint a past" 
not to say that I approve of people's ways but, 
don’t judge someone just because you sin different, 
 I believe the saying goes 
“people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones” .
“ Woman wants monogamy; man delights in novelty. Love is woman’s moon and sun; Man has other forms of fun ” – Dorothy Parker



Point being, Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love.
In Steve Harvey's words, 
a woman's love is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time or demand. If you are her man, she will talk to you until there just aren’t any more words left to say, encourage you when you’re at rock bottom and think there just isn’t any way out, hold you in her arms when you’re sick, and laugh with you when you’re up. And if you’re her man and that woman loves you—I mean really loves you?—she will shine you up when you’re dusty, encourage you when you’re down, defend you even when she’s not so sure you were right, and hang on your every word, even when you’re not saying anything worth listening to. And no matter what you do, no matter how many times her friends say you’re no good, no matter how many times you slam the door on the relationship, she will give you her very best and then some, and keep right on trying to win over your heart, even when you act like everything she’s done to convince you she’s The One just isn’t good enough. That’s a woman’s love—it stands the test of time, logic, and circumstance. 

It’s in our nature to love HARD!.


Luckily, some of us learn to be smart about it, Knowing that if this man isn’t looking for a serious relationship, we’re not going to change his mind just because you're going on dates and being intimate. You could be the most perfect woman on the Lord’s green earth. Swear! Even if you’re capable of interesting conversation, you cook a mean breakfast, you hand out backrubs like sandwiches, make him laugh like Hart, even if you’re independent (which means to him that you’re not going to be in his pockets) and you do all you can in your power to make life easier for him. Putting his peace and happiness before your own. If he’s not ready for a serious relationship, he just going to take, take, take and NEVER give. The problem isn’t YOU, its him. You see, you can take a horse to water but can’t make it drink.
Everything in life happens for a reason and when we don’t learn from our ways life brings us right back to the same situation to see if we can press pause before the drum beat starts echoing disaster. 
A grown man isn’t so bothered about the women that aren’t right for him because hes focused on the woman who is. He knows that somewhere out there is that ONE female that ticks all the right boxes. I mean, imagine if men started treating women like equals, dreaming about that one in a wedding dress, rather than all of them naked. Less misogyny is all. Sounds like a fairy tale right?
I recently had a new found faith in the existence of soul mates. Everyone has that one person who they’re destined to be with. That person who makes them feel like they don’t have to carry the weight of the world alone rather than that someone who is just more weight to carry out of unrequited love. But how are you going to be ready for that right one if you keep giving yourself to all the wrong ones? Being alone doesn’t have to mean you’re lonely. Society has that jinxed.
I’m sure that if women laid out their needs early on, and let the guy they’re presumably dating know that he could either rise up to those requirements, or just move on. A directive signal like that tells a man that you are not someone to be used and discarded by him. It tells him that what you have your benefits are you’re the right kind of special. That you need time to get to know him and his ways to decide if he DESERVES you and your ways. A man who is willing to put in the time and meet the requirements is the one you want to stick around, because that guy is making a conscious decision that he too, has no interest in playing games and will do what it takes to not only stay with you, but also get promoted and be the proud beneficiary of your benefits. And you, in the meantime, win the ultimate prize of maintain your dignity and self-esteem, and earning the respect of the man who recognized that you were worth the wait.
Your mission is to avoid being on a string, right? Well simply get over the fear of losing a man by confronting him, I’ve heard so many girls say “nah, I can’t if I say that he might get upset and leave me” Girl please let him leave, you shouldn’t fear confronting your lover, he isn’t the government. Just stop being afraid already! Everything you fear in a relationship or do wrong is what leads you to making hoe decisions


That’s the choice a lady makes. So yes these hoes aint loyal (male and female). That’s why monogamy exists.

The only reason she will compare you to her ex is if you’re doing something wrong. When you’re so much better and she’s so much happier with you, no body compares. A relationship is a team not two people against each other. The only reason he will cheat is because he wants to, there is no clue. So don’t mix your past and you’re present, that shit will only leave you feeling blue.


So, Lily! What is you’re conclusion?

Well, Firstly, men should stick to being men and women stick to being women.
Secondly, Boys and girls, not all that glitters is gold.
Finally,
Everybody needs to calm down, it’s not meant to be hard.

Lily Xx




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